Emotional Void: The Space I Find It Hard To Fill

What if you didn’t need someone to fill this felt inner void? Stop looking for that person in other people who will fill this emotional void and fill it yourself.

Emotional emptiness is closely linked to the feeling of loneliness.

This state of “being alone” that we all try so often to escape, as most people refuse it, mock loners or criticize those who enjoy spending time with themselves.

As we are sociable beings, even though we have high self-esteem, in the end we end up seeking to be like others, to be guided by those beliefs that assert that loneliness is for those who fail.

What if we weren’t like everyone else? What harm would it have?

The endless search to fill the emotional void

Faced with all this, we are constantly trying to fill this inner void that resonates in our stomach by making us believe that we are missing something, that we are incomplete.

It most likely has something to do with the emotional state of our childhood.

Your parents’ dysfunctional relationship, added to Prince Charming’s misconceptions, made you feel incomplete. A person who, in order to be whole, needs someone else.

What solution does this belief bring us? Any. We only fuel emotional dependence, our terrible discomfort and a relentless search for “that other person” who will never fill this void that makes us suffer.

We are always looking outside for what we think is missing in ourselves.

It’s quite ironic, because depending on others to fill our voids, causes us to give of ourselves, to need others to feel good and happy.

However, even if we try a lot, despite our efforts and the excuses we tell ourselves, we will find ourselves in the same situation of pain and disappointment.

How can we prevent others from filling our emotional void?

Not everything that others think is correct is always the case

When you feel overwhelmed because you feel different, when you are laughed at for not being able to find anyone and you are lonely, stop wanting to fit in.

Stop wanting your life to be how others think it should be.

Sometimes we have to start questioning certain beliefs that we hold to be true because in reality there are many other ways of seeing things and living them.

Trying to all live the same way can get really exhausting and frustrating.

We don’t have to be in a relationship or have children to feel satisfied and fulfilled.

This belief in “following this marked path” seeks to make people who prefer to take others, miserable.

Love yourself and take care of yourself

Believing that we are a lost soul mate encourages the idea of ​​not seeing ourselves in the first place. And to prioritize another person who will be the one who will make us a complete being.

It will only fuel that void that we are trying to fill with others. With words of affection, touches of feelings and with a love that we do not give to ourselves.

We are not aware that if we want this emotional void to go away, we have to love ourselves, take care of ourselves, and think of ourselves first before starting a relationship and proclaiming a love that we do not give to ourselves. .

As soon as we realize this we will no longer depend on anyone.

So if a relationship doesn’t work, that void that we suffer so badly will not reappear. Because we now know that we don’t need anyone to fill it.

We just had to focus our attention on ourselves.

Stop thinking that you need someone. Stop feeding this void created by mistaken beliefs about who we are and what we should be to be complete.

It is the moment to love ourselves, to prioritize ourselves, even if this, nowadays, is still badly perceived, considered as an attitude of “selfish”.

Don’t allow yourself to continue to think that everything you listen to around you is the only truth.

Learn to question everything, because many beliefs do more harm than good. And some feed your emotional void without you realizing it.